by Ellen Boeder | Dec 28, 2017 | attachment, Marriage, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology, relationship, values
In the early years of raising our family, when we had two very young ones in our care, I remember realizing how often I was overriding my need for rest, among other needs. I remember thinking, “Wow, it took me years to figure out what I really need and want, and now I...
by Ellen Boeder | Dec 5, 2017 | autoimmune, empowerment, Feminism, health, Motherhood, values
Five years ago I was struggling to recover my energy since the birth of my second child, my daughter, who was almost 2 years old at the time. Despite getting as much sleep as I could with two young children, receiving a ton of support from my husband, feeling loved by...
by Ellen Boeder | Sep 21, 2017 | attachment, empowerment, Feminism, health, Marriage, Motherhood, psychology, relationship
Family action shot above, though not a moment of overwhelm. Just a little birthday celebration for me at our favorite creek spot. My son is not grimacing in pain, but making that face because he knows how to crack me up. If you are a mother, I am 100% certain you...
by Ellen Boeder | Apr 21, 2017 | empathy, empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, psychology
“I never thought you were a mother.” The woman who spoke these words to me had only seen me in passing at a yoga class we both attend on a random basis. That is the whole sum of our interactions. And yet she had formed a little story of who I am. She’s not...
by Ellen Boeder | Mar 27, 2017 | autoimmune, Marriage, Motherhood, relationship
*Yes, that is my son holding a muffin cup in his mouth that he made into a parachute with some string and a stick* My husband was ready to have a baby before I was. I think it was like three days after our wedding festivities ended when he told me he wanted a baby....
by Ellen Boeder | Feb 10, 2017 | empowerment, Feminism, Marriage, Motherhood, nurturing, relationship
I’ve been trying to find my words about being a mother in this climate of political aggression and hatred. I watch decision after horrifying decision be made in our government since the election. I realize, embarrassingly, I must have no idea how government works,...
by Ellen Boeder | Dec 12, 2016 | Girls, Motherhood
Before I became a mother, I used to have no way to understand mother’s who were sad, let alone cried, on their kids’ birthdays. It took becoming a mother for me to understand the birthday crying, along with the rest of the feelings that mother’s have about their kids...
by Ellen Boeder | Oct 25, 2016 | autoimmune, empowerment, health, Marriage, Motherhood, psychology, relationship
Mothers, if you are married or partnered, I know a form of self care that will give you more energy back than you expend doing it. Want to know what it is? Take care of your relationship. I know. You’re already taking care of a TON of things. I know you are worried...
by Ellen Boeder | Sep 26, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, relationship
Recently I was sitting across from a client in the process of enduring and assimilating a devastating, irreplaceable loss. In the midst of her profound grief and flowing tears, she spoke of an impulse to destroy herself, and a heartfelt realization came to me: For the...
by Ellen Boeder | Aug 12, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, values
Ok, I really don’t want to be a downer on the party here. I get why some moms would want to go see the movie “Bad Moms.” It will probably be funny, and cathartic. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be entertained for a night. What I can’t seem to get past is how...
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