by Ellen Boeder | Jun 26, 2022 | Uncategorized
I had a client once who was deciding if she wanted to have a baby or not (she was not pregnant at the time). She was concerned that I could not support her in this deliberation because she had seen (through social media and public speaking) how much I valued my...
by Ellen Boeder | May 5, 2022 | Uncategorized
I’ve never been more amazed by spring than this year. The buds that are getting ready to burst, the bright blooms coming out of the ground, the birds chirping and nesting all around us. How can still want to make their way into the world, with all that is...
by Ellen Boeder | Jun 29, 2021 | attachment, attachment parenting, empowerment, Motherhood, Parenting, relationship
I was “warned” about a lot of things as I embarked on pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, from well meaning people. But it never felt good to be warned about how tired I would be, how I would have no time for myself, how hard my infant, toddler, preteen or adolescent...
by Ellen Boeder | May 20, 2021 | Motherhood, psychology
I just finished a five day solo retreat in southern Utah. It was the first time I’ve left my family to be alone (for more than a day) in over a decade. Wait, I did do a one night retreat when I was 7 months pregnant with my second child, does that...
by Ellen Boeder | Feb 21, 2021 | Marriage, nurturing, Parenting, psychology, relationship, Uncategorized, yoga
As a couples therapist and coach, sometimes I feel like I’m on the frontlines of a pandemic of individualism–especially when I’m facing how challenging it is for couples to think in a more complex, systemic way about their relationship. It is so hard...
by Ellen Boeder | Jan 10, 2021 | Uncategorized
My youngest child, my daughter, turned 10 years old in early December. Ten years seems like a great reflection point, and I’ve been trying to grasp how having this girl in my life for a decade has impacted me. I’ve come across one of her (many) enormous gifts...
by Ellen Boeder | Oct 21, 2019 | attachment, attachment parenting, Parenting, psychology, psychotherapy, relationship
Recently, a mother I know was confiding in me that through the help of professional support she was learning that her children are not securely attached. She was shocked to learn this (though it made sense to her) as she has been a stay at home mom, exclusively...
by Ellen Boeder | Mar 20, 2019 | birth, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology
Malcolm Gladwell, in researching great minds and talents, said that it takes 10,000 hours, or 10 years, to master a craft. All those supposed instantly talented genius’ out there have one common denominator: they put in about a decade of hard, unrelenting work before...
by Ellen Boeder | Dec 23, 2018 | attachment, empathy, Feminism, health, nurturing, Parenting, psychology, relationship
What if we parented our kids like our future depends on it? (Because, of course, it does). What does that look like? How do we treat our children in a way that considers their future roles, responsibilities, and opportunities? That respects the inevitable burdens...
by Ellen Boeder | Dec 7, 2018 | attachment, empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology, relationship, values
Yesterday I walked by a man who was jogging wearing a t-shirt that read “Fearlessly Independent.” As he jogged past me, I thought about my current life, and how “fearless” and “independent” are definitely not words I would use to describe myself today. I certainly...
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