by Ellen Boeder | Feb 21, 2021 | Marriage, nurturing, Parenting, psychology, relationship, Uncategorized, yoga
As a couples therapist and coach, sometimes I feel like I’m on the frontlines of a pandemic of individualism–especially when I’m facing how challenging it is for couples to think in a more complex, systemic way about their relationship. It is so hard...
by Ellen Boeder | Oct 21, 2019 | attachment, attachment parenting, Parenting, psychology, psychotherapy, relationship
Recently, a mother I know was confiding in me that through the help of professional support she was learning that her children are not securely attached. She was shocked to learn this (though it made sense to her) as she has been a stay at home mom, exclusively...
by Ellen Boeder | Mar 20, 2019 | birth, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology
Malcolm Gladwell, in researching great minds and talents, said that it takes 10,000 hours, or 10 years, to master a craft. All those supposed instantly talented genius’ out there have one common denominator: they put in about a decade of hard, unrelenting work before...
by Ellen Boeder | Dec 23, 2018 | attachment, empathy, Feminism, health, nurturing, Parenting, psychology, relationship
What if we parented our kids like our future depends on it? (Because, of course, it does). What does that look like? How do we treat our children in a way that considers their future roles, responsibilities, and opportunities? That respects the inevitable burdens...
by Ellen Boeder | Dec 7, 2018 | attachment, empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology, relationship, values
Yesterday I walked by a man who was jogging wearing a t-shirt that read “Fearlessly Independent.” As he jogged past me, I thought about my current life, and how “fearless” and “independent” are definitely not words I would use to describe myself today. I certainly...
by Ellen Boeder | Dec 28, 2017 | attachment, Marriage, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology, relationship, values
In the early years of raising our family, when we had two very young ones in our care, I remember realizing how often I was overriding my need for rest, among other needs. I remember thinking, “Wow, it took me years to figure out what I really need and want, and now I...
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