by Ellen Boeder | Jul 24, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, nurturing, Parenting, psychology
This post was partly inspired by a recent decision to ban the sale of ice cream at our summer pools, because ice cream was deemed unhealthy for our kids by the City of Boulder. I was offended that the city felt the need to make decisions for me about what is healthy...
by Ellen Boeder | May 23, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, psychology
This weekend I was at a social gathering, and within minutes of arriving became involved in a conversation with a woman I’d just met about some of the changes in herself she noticed after becoming a mother. Ok, yes, I probably did steer our chat in that direction due...
by Ellen Boeder | May 2, 2016 | Motherhood, psychology, values
“You’re such a good mom.” This is one of the most loaded compliments a mother hears. It’s loaded with someone else’s biases. They’re basically saying, “You mother in the way I think you should, therefore, I approve of your mothering.” It’s a value...
by Ellen Boeder | Mar 28, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, nurturing, psychology, values
“Why isn’t motherhood enough?” A smart, career oriented, devoted mother I know recently asked this worthwhile question to a group of mothers discussing the work/motherhood thing (and I’m not going to say work/motherhood “balance” because that phrase makes me cringe)....
by Ellen Boeder | Mar 14, 2016 | empathy, Marriage, Motherhood, nurturing, Parenting, psychology
Empathy as a mother is a crucial skill. Our children depend on our ability to sense and feel them deeply, and to use that information to keep creating balance, harmony, and well being in our fluctuating family systems. Being empathic is an asset as a human being,...
by Ellen Boeder | Mar 7, 2016 | economics, Feminism, Motherhood, nurturing, psychology, values
“…mothers can never achieve economic equality in the labor market as things now stand…Workplace marginalization has cumulative effects on a primary caregiver’s income, her status in marriage, her children’s security, and even the economy as whole.” —The Price of...
by Ellen Boeder | Mar 1, 2016 | Motherhood, psychology, values
Recently, I got a huge download about feeling anxious: I realized that my anxiety is trying to help me. I know its weird for me to say that. If you ever feel anxious, you know anxiety does not feel helpful. Anxiety feels like something that needs to be stopped,...
by Ellen Boeder | Feb 23, 2016 | Feminism, Marriage, Motherhood, psychology
Ok. I can’t write one more word on this blog without talking about my marriage. This knowing that I have to write about us has been looming since I started writing about motherhood. Because, motherhood is not a solo endeavor for me. My experience as a mother is deeply...
by Ellen Boeder | Feb 1, 2016 | Motherhood, psychology, values
It seems like everywhere I look these days, someone is selling me “The Secret to a Balanced Life,” or something along those lines. Anyone else out there annoyed by this? I feel like I am being sold a new and improved version of perfection, just repurposed and...
by Ellen Boeder | Jan 3, 2016 | Motherhood, psychology
I’m deconstructing another lie I tell myself when I feel overwhelmed with the amount of responsibilities and roles I have taken on in my life: I have no space. Now you see, a part of me really thinks this is TRUE. Seriously, I walk around with kids clinging to my...
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