by Ellen Boeder | Apr 21, 2017 | empathy, empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, psychology
“I never thought you were a mother.” The woman who spoke these words to me had only seen me in passing at a yoga class we both attend on a random basis. That is the whole sum of our interactions. And yet she had formed a little story of who I am. She’s not...
by Ellen Boeder | Mar 27, 2017 | autoimmune, Marriage, Motherhood, relationship
*Yes, that is my son holding a muffin cup in his mouth that he made into a parachute with some string and a stick* My husband was ready to have a baby before I was. I think it was like three days after our wedding festivities ended when he told me he wanted a baby....
by Ellen Boeder | Feb 10, 2017 | empowerment, Feminism, Marriage, Motherhood, nurturing, relationship
I’ve been trying to find my words about being a mother in this climate of political aggression and hatred. I watch decision after horrifying decision be made in our government since the election. I realize, embarrassingly, I must have no idea how government works,...
by Ellen Boeder | Dec 12, 2016 | Girls, Motherhood
Before I became a mother, I used to have no way to understand mother’s who were sad, let alone cried, on their kids’ birthdays. It took becoming a mother for me to understand the birthday crying, along with the rest of the feelings that mother’s have about their kids...
by Ellen Boeder | Oct 25, 2016 | autoimmune, empowerment, health, Marriage, Motherhood, psychology, relationship
Mothers, if you are married or partnered, I know a form of self care that will give you more energy back than you expend doing it. Want to know what it is? Take care of your relationship. I know. You’re already taking care of a TON of things. I know you are worried...
by Ellen Boeder | Sep 26, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, relationship
Recently I was sitting across from a client in the process of enduring and assimilating a devastating, irreplaceable loss. In the midst of her profound grief and flowing tears, she spoke of an impulse to destroy herself, and a heartfelt realization came to me: For the...
by Ellen Boeder | Aug 12, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, values
Ok, I really don’t want to be a downer on the party here. I get why some moms would want to go see the movie “Bad Moms.” It will probably be funny, and cathartic. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be entertained for a night. What I can’t seem to get past is how...
by Ellen Boeder | Jul 24, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, nurturing, Parenting, psychology
This post was partly inspired by a recent decision to ban the sale of ice cream at our summer pools, because ice cream was deemed unhealthy for our kids by the City of Boulder. I was offended that the city felt the need to make decisions for me about what is healthy...
by Ellen Boeder | May 23, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, psychology
This weekend I was at a social gathering, and within minutes of arriving became involved in a conversation with a woman I’d just met about some of the changes in herself she noticed after becoming a mother. Ok, yes, I probably did steer our chat in that direction due...
by Ellen Boeder | May 2, 2016 | Motherhood, psychology, values
“You’re such a good mom.” This is one of the most loaded compliments a mother hears. It’s loaded with someone else’s biases. They’re basically saying, “You mother in the way I think you should, therefore, I approve of your mothering.” It’s a value...
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